When someone dies, Jews respond in sympathy with “May his/her memory be for a blessing.” Orthodox Christians respond with “Memory eternal”. Others say simply “Rest In Peace.” What I find interesting is why we tend not to remember people’s faults…
I took the Process when I was 30, living alone in the Marina district in San Francisco. Now at age 70, I live in Palo Alto with my wife of 28 years (also a Process graduate). Together, we have a…
A graduate writes to her Process classmates, about a “Process Moment” two years out from her Process. She has put her new Process skills in all caps. Here is her post: Have you ever sent an e-mail and been bitten…
We all have limitations. It is how we approach them and handle them that makes the difference. The Serenity Prayer says it well: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the…
When I was growing up, my mother took great care not to create competition between my older sister and myself. She was very clear about who was good at what, but she also was clear that if it was my…
By Chandrama Anderson, LMFT Recently I was looking at one of my journals from the early 80s when I was 20 or 21 years old. I came across an entry about an interaction with my guy of that time. He…
By Vera Shadle, Process Graduate Why quality therapy is worth every single cent: Super Bowl weekend just up the road from the Big Event, and our local grocery store is pretty busy. While I’m exchanging pleasantries with the cashier, at…
Parents often complain, “I sound just like my mother/father.” And you probably do sound like your parents. We learn to be parents by watching our own parents during our childhoods. Yes, of course you do some things differently. Your parents…
Sometimes it is difficult to figure out if you are on the right road, or the wrong one. The right road hums inside you. Even when there are difficulties, the direction is clear. There is often an inner knowing that…
When I was a child, I completely bought into the “Happily ever after” myth. Life would only get better, once I grew up. I would find my handsome prince, have 2.3 children, and live in a house in the suburbs…
Do you catch yourself doing things, making choices, that are not in your own best interest? I certainly do. For me it often has to do with spending time on social media, or playing solitaire on my computer. Why is…
A post by a Process Graduate: One of the reasons I took the Process was to handle panic attacks as a result of a series of traumatic events. I have come to terms with calling it PTSD. I took a…
This blog is a Ted Talk by Jim Tamm, Process graduate, former judge, and co-author of Radical Collaboration. “Cultivating Collaboration: Don’t be so Defensive!” 15 minutes about managing your defensiveness, it includes the why and how. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vjSTNv4gyMM Jim Tamm, photo…
Sometimes I find myself making negative judgments about people I do not even know. We all do it in traffic: “That idiot just cut in front of me.” And we make snap judgments of others when we see them, whether…
The following story was told to me by a Process client at the end of her first week in the Process. The relevant (to this story) teaching that occurs during the first week is that we learn to identify the…